The idea of giving yourself to someone is petrifying. You might wonder, if I give myself to someone, does that mean I no longer own myself? Does it mean that this person can do whatever they please with me? The mistake that most of us make is that we over give and over share and over extend ourselves in the name of love and ultimately end up finding ourselves empty, broken and lost after they decide they no longer have use for us.
When you get into a relationship you shouldn’t give yourself to that person, you should share yourself with that person. A lot of us end up being taken by our loved ones and those closest to us for granted because they feel like we are theirs to do whatever they want with. Some people will intentionally destroy you mentally, spiritually and physically if you allow them to. They’ll strip you naked psychologically and empty you out emotionally. So, don’t be afraid to take your gift away from them. Unhealthy love is scary.
This is why knowing who you are and who you were meant to be before you decide to share your gifts with someone else is so important. It is why you must share and not give. When you know who you are, when you know what you bring to the table, when you know your purpose, when you have enough love to share and know when to stop sharing, when you understand how to set boundaries, when you know what you will and will not tolerate, when you value your peace of mind, when you value your growth and worth, when you understand what your journey requires, when you are healed, you are ready to share your life
But choosing someone to share your life with is only half the battle. As important as it is to have a companion or a mate, accumulating enough love for yourself will prevent you from choosing people out of despair and loneliness. It will prevent you from remaining hopeful in hopeless relationships and environments that are only tearing you down. Take your time and heal and become who you were meant to be, and you will attract people who will help fuel your journey as much as you will fuel theirs. When you are healed and ready to share your gifts, you will both understand that being with each other doesn’t mean that you own one another; you can appreciate and cherish each other. You won’t take each other for granted because you’ll understand that every moment you share together is a gift. You will understand that the purpose of being in each other’s lives is not just to be with each other but rather to help one another continue to heal and to help each other live in your purpose. It’s to fuel each other’s engine in order to have enough power and will to make it to your destination when you are running on empty.
The person you choose to share your gifts with shouldn’t destroy them even though they have the power to. They shouldn’t toss them around because they’re not having a good day. They shouldn’t be seen as a burden. That person should be there to improve and enhance your precious gifts.
